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Published June 12th, 2011It’s Sunday morning and the antics of blogging are hysterical. My 3G connection from Vodacom (so naming and shaming) has been non functional in the flat, but when I’m at any else’s WiFi I’m styling. I don’t know how much of the ‘riddled with guilt’ part of my personality I actually share with you, but the mere having to ask Greggie to sit in a coffee shop for a touch longer to blog or use his cellphone to connect to his laptop and post the blog almost tosses my world upside down. The blog is a daily part of who I am and it never interferes with much … until now. It seems to have become the crux of the decision because it’s not simple to just type, post and carry on between moments of the day.
So here I am, rushing to blog on my laptop while Greggie gets ready for out outing to the wine farms. Once I’m finished typing and he’s dressed and ready to go … we will have to put the post onto a memory stick, transfer it to his laptop, connect on his mobile … okay, it might not be a train smash for anyone around me, but my perception takes me to places of great annoyance. It’s amazing because if someone needed my help like that I wouldn’t be irritated at all.
I’m finding that with perception and am now starting to see the theme for the holiday. Firstly, everyone seems to think that Greggie and I are married. I know I talk about him every single day on my blog, but he is my best friend and business partner after all. I’m sure if I counted the number of times I have pointed out the best friend and business partner part of the friends people would then say I obsessively do that. There doesn’t seem to be a winning situation here, where isn’t fun for a single girl who doesn’t like hearing that the world thinks I’m very attached. Maybe that’s why I’m still single?
The world does know Greggie is gay, right? Hmmm … the number of times I’ve asked him to camp it up so that it’s blazingly obvious about his gayness!!
Jokes aside, the perception sometimes does kill me because being single isn’t the most super fun a girl can have. I would love to be in a relationship and I’m not going to go into the positivity movement of being expected to say that all is perfect in my single world. That crap about keeping it so positive that a negative thought never enters your mind doesn’t really fly with me when I’m walking along the beachfront with my gay best friend but my heart is wishing I was holding the hand of some man I love in a very different way.
I’m not falling for the one thing that everyone always throws at us either … we act like a married couple! Now we don’t … we act like best friends and that’s how a married couple should be!! Most people envy our relationship meanwhile it’s just loving, honest and real … we all deserve that. Friendship is marriage without the sex anyway …
On that note!!
The next crisis of perception is a lot about sex and the quandary I now find myself in about an exciting business opportunity and the fears I find myself dabbling with. I got into the adult industry as a speaker to help those who thought that there was no other way but the shame or fear based sexual issues they carry. For me, the ultimate reward would be to get everyone to understand that sex relates to your perception of yourself and what you do with your body is what you think of your entire being. So, when I was asked to do a column for a South African online dating site … that truly is a way of finding sex … I decided to be a little less co dependant on the opinion of my business partner and look at the site, what I am trying to achieve and if I could add value. I did … and I said ‘yes’!!!
But then all hell broke loose in my head when it was drinks time with our new friend, Bets. As we started to discuss the new and exciting venture, I showed them the site. All of a sudden Greggie stumbles upon the pages that show everyone’s …. um … genitals as their profile pics. It is a sex site after all and Bets had a valid question … if it is in line with my philosophy and what I am trying to achieve then it is all fine. OMG … I couldn’t figure that out in my head, ended up with an upset stomach and dreamed that I was the only person who didn’t get to meet my fave SA band because I had been banished from Twitter.
The bottom line is that I am trying to help those very people who feel they need a site like that to find a relationship or sex. Hell … my two last … um, men … were both found off dating sites and we ended up having a whole lot more than just a shag because of the integrity with which I go into relating … the very things I want to share with people. So I had to do a whole lot of chatting to my poor fears, but only when my best friend and gay business partner reminded me that I need to be emerged in that world in order to help it, did my mind settle!
Perception suck … it’s the bottom line! So we’ve got to make sure we are settled with our own choices for our own reasons and put those little horsie eye blinkers of and keep galloping through life. Well … that’s what I’m going to do, anyway!
With courage, consciousness & a sense of humour
Published February 14th, 2011
I’m exhausted after a day that turned out to be more magical than I ever imagined it could be. I can’t believe that my little sis is married and I am thrilled to say that it was one of the most beautiful weddings I’ve ever been too … AND I caught the bouquet.
World, meet my special sister and new brother … Mr Matthew and Mrs Geordie Nicholls. Aren’t they just the cutest couple? I love the height thing that’s going and for the cutting of the cake (which was actually biting into gorgeous cup cakes) my little sis stood on a chair and was just about the same height … tee hee! What a beautiful love to watch blossom.
I was honoured to be my sister’s bridesmaid and do the toast to the incredible special couple. My sis and hubby met on Facebook and were engaged 3 months later. In the speech I started it with a pic that was posted straight onto Facebook in honour of the way these crazy kids met! I did the speech impromptu like I said I would and it went off perfectly (besides all the tears). Thanks to everyone who laughed in the right places and cried when they should have … it made it even more of a gift.
The theme of the wedding was stars and my sister, with her Virgo personality, tied everything in so beautifully. All the little personal touches showed that my sis and hubby poured their heart and soul into sharing their love with everyone who is dear to them.
I can’t thank the couple enough for inviting my most precious friends to share the wedding with them (and with me). Thank you to Twinkletoes for driving the bride to her wedding. Fancy car Mr Twinkletoes and oh so cool … literally aircon cool. Hustler Girl, thanks for helping Geords with your pretty writing and Ponky thanks for driving some special peeps to the wedding for us. Greggie … thank you for holding it all together when the seems were coming out in my frayed little life with the build up to the wedding.
It’s not always easy being single at a wedding and it’s a little tougher at that moment when the retinue is asked to join the bride and groom on the dance floor. For once it was a truly special moment for me to dance with my best friend and know that we are both wishing for the other to find true love, but in the meantime … how lucky can one girl be?
I have been anticipating how I would feel on the day and am so proud of myself for all that I am slowly blossoming into. Less is more and that goes for the bum and tummy most of all. Even I surprised myself at how great I felt but when dear friends had tears in their eyes in honour of my self worth and determination, it was beyond words. I know that I have chosen every step along the way that got me to this point, but without sponsors like RegimA (for my glowing skin that survived all the pre wedding drama) and SlimLab (that kept the binge eating away as a form of survival), I wouldn’t have felt as great as I do.
It left me with a new ‘project me’ knowing and sense of determination. Watching the love that my sister and hubby share reminded me that it’s all worth the wait and that he is out there somewhere. It bonded relationships with some family members and reminded me of just how blessed I am to have the friends I do. My back held out so well and I even got to dance the time warp and do the locomotion.
Today I feel exhausted though, but oh so worth it! So I’m doing simple things like spending time with my sis and her hubby and taking my date (mommy) out for movies and dinner for Valentines.
What a way to celebrate the cheesy day of love! 
With courage, consciousness & a sense of humour
Published July 30th, 2010
You're invited to my rejection pity party
I got my first rejection letter from a publisher today!
I’m trying to figure out if I should be a lot more disappointed or distressed? It feels like it should start off this way and it’s the perfect way to test whether I really do see everything in life as fun and exactly as it should be.
Greggie got the email and stalled for a while before telling me. The look on his face did indicate that he thought I would take it a lot worse. Okay it’s not like I high-five’d him but it felt expected for the first response. Continue reading
Published March 9th, 2010Firstly … let’s hear it for my Knight who made some awesome changes to the the blog … lighter and brighter!
My day started so well. It actually began so incredibly refreshingly that when I reflect back on the simple exercise of reawakening the editing of my novel last night, I can’t believe how simple it can be.
Sometime between laughing at how poor my spelling and grammar is (considering I’m a writer) and marveling at how the novel unfolded, I fell asleep feeling Continue reading
