Don’t panic! I don’t have it in me to be some crazed revengeful chick despite how dramatic the title of this might be.
I’m so off Facebook and literally go on to check who has a birthday and chat to my one dear blogging friend, Nikki. Despite that an odd status might appear from me. It was chatting time and I saw the status update that pushed me over the edge. The one from Mr Big, who I haven’t heard from since his surprise email about a month ago. At that stage I was very single and he was telling me how one day I would meet the right person. Do they mean it when they say it?
Mr Unexpected was sitting next to me and working … and I truly am falling a little more in love each day … so the time was perfect. I have contemplated deleting Mr Big for months now, but for some reason I also wanted him to stay around. Not because of any glimmer of hope but because I knew I was on the brink of great things and I’ve never quite gotten over the bitterness of ‘friends with benefits’ and why we are so not suited (was is something about not being a size 34 … or 32 I think it was)!!
I can’t lie … it hurt like hell and I guess I didn’t realise how much I needed to put it all down until I saw his status update yesterday. How to have that ‘revenge’ moment but stay within integrity is a fine line … so I sent a very simple email!
It said ‘Hi’ … hoped he was well and I had good news to tell him. Of course the news was that someone did love me just as I was and it felt damn good sending it.
His response was … “I’m so happy for you. How’s the sex?” … go figure!!
I don’t care how he felt or if he even cared or not, but my wounded spirit needed to do that! Whether my reasons for sending the mail where in a shattered esteem or not … It took a few tons off the chip on my shoulder. Yes … I have one of those!
This morning, after a confusion about the gym session I was supposed to have, I had to mission all the way home in traffic to make a meeting back near the gym in just over an hour. Not one part of me was angry or frustrated. That got me thinking before I had my Body Mind Healing session with Juliette this afternoon. I never get angry!! I never get raging or frustrated.
At this point I’m sure Mr Unexpected would do that *clears the throat* thing … but then I realised that the only thing I really get angry at is other people who get angry. Surely there’s a place to get angry? It’s allowed … so why do I not allow myself or anyone else around me to get really, really pissed off?
I even started the post with totally playing down the possibility for me to be revengeful … but I have every right to be pissed off!
With courage, consciousness & a sense of humour
I’m thinking it’s going to be one of those days.
Waking up to the wild antics of a kitten that looks like she should have been named after a princess is my own fault … I never should have named her after a mischievous dragon. It would have been cute were I not coming down from the sugar rush of a lifetime.
Or is it that I’m finally building a healthy enough relationship with my body that I can feel the impact of food on my entire system?
Of course I blame Hustler Girl and in her comment she is going to blame me in return. The bottom line is that our little binge of what we thought was a well deserved ‘cheat’ meal left me learning things about myself that my poor sugar levels have been trying to learn for years. My body only wants to be fed certain things. My body doesn’t like too much refined, oily, sugary stuff that we are used to eating every day.
When I was little one of my favourite things to do was play with a yo-yo. I can’t tell you how many I had but one of my best ones had a face on it and I used to imagine that is was a person getting all dizzy as I twirled and spun it. You know that eeeeewww feeling? Well I had that from the moment my sugar spiked for the first time. Hmmm … lesson learned!
But wait, there’s more … sugar that is!! Don’t those biscuity things with the yummy strawberry begging to be eaten just look scrumptious? I didn’t realise the invitation to The Venus Network for some fun and a product research workshop for South Africa’s Tea Lovers biscuits would include an array of delicious treats made from the biscuits … naive, I know!
So we all know just how engrossed in online networking I am. I’ve mentioned for long enough how I can mingle anywhere online but don’t like arriving at venues on my own. Let’s not forget that if you spin me around I’m lost. It was also time to meet a ‘stranger’ that I’ve only been communicating with via every other means possible except face to face. I’ve had a few ‘project me’ stories of connecting with someone and chatting for ages only to never speak again after the actual meeting. This person is really sweet and I don’t want them to go away … so the combination of all of this was like a sugar rush all on it’s own.
I liked it … all of it … the personal social networking. Spending time at the gorgeous venue, Life on 3rd in Mellville and putting a gentle face to a very special voice. On that note, it’s a great thank you to Life on 3rd for the absolutely delicious sweet treats that were all made with Tea Lovers biscuits. If I didn’t stress about a potential sugar coma, I would have indulged a tad more.
I also discovered that I quite like tapping into another creative side of myself. Yes, words flow like water with me but when we were presented with cardboard, crayons, pencils and magazines and asked to be artistically creative, I panicked a little. I can write what I think, but to draw it … that’s not me! Or is it??? Maybe the sugary experience that thrust me into the unfamiliar world of creativity sparked a little more confidence in a few more areas of possibility. Don’t panic … I’m not about to try and sketch a Monet.
I met a super interesting woman there and we were Facebook friends before we walked out the door. When you realise you have 4 friends in common and 3 of them are from a dating site, you know that the world is but an oyster shell. Of course they would have to include both Mr Big and The Jock. I saw The Jock yesterday so I know he’s alive and well, but I haven’t heard from Mr Big since the day we decided to ‘end it’ but stay friends. I can feel my sugars rising just thinking about the 6 months that have passed since he made any contact. Admittedly, I have been worried about him because there hasn’t even be any activity on his Facebook since last year. No … I’m not stalking him, exactly! Imagine my surprise when I received a message from him less than 10 minutes after I made a new friend. My initial reaction was relief that he’s alive but then the rest of the emotions came gushing in. The curiosity is killing him … How do I know this woman we now have in common? How is the house hunting? How am I liking my new hair colour? Am I married yet?? … The down side of social networking … but then again it is my choice to announce all of these things for the world to see. Oh shit … I blog daily too! Right, nothing to hide!
So I learned he’s alive and well and that was good enough for me. I chose not to write back, just like I chose not to poke Text Guy back and I chose not to go down any repeated road with The Jock.
Despite the fact that I feel like hell today and am now in a state that I pushed my body over the edge and have diabetes as of this moment on, I had some of the most fun, special and empowering moments all thanks to a shit load of sugar!
With courage, consciousness & a sense of humour
I did it! I actually did it! I can’t get past staring at the 365 part in the title. I’m awash with emotion and gushing with pride, yet somehow I can’t help but think of everyone but me right now. I have been dreaming about doing the 365th blog and always imagined doing a recap of the year that passed but all I want to do today is say thank you.
This is going to sound totally like the collection of an Oscar award but if you don’t know that little bit of drama in me by now … well you just haven’t read enough of ‘project me’.
Where to begin? Continue reading
So ‘project me’ is about making it all positive right? It’s about taking anything that happens and being conscious about it and finding the value in it? It’s about putting me first and making sure that my needs and happiness are my own priority?
Interesting, because tonight I’m kinda going ‘um’ about myself and I don’t do that very often. Yep, I’m doubting how nice a person I am.
Actually, I’m trying not to get confused between what I know I deserve and being too guarded by my insecurities. Me? Insecurities? Continue reading
I’m doing my best at keeping the blogging up, but it seems that ‘project me’ is throwing me things on a daily basis that prove just how consciously I am living. Today was one of those days for so many reasons that I literally feel as though I cut the cold from the old me and set myself free.
I’m sitting here trying to type and it’s killing me so I’ve decided to look into getting that voice to type software. I know that everyone says its hard to train it but I honestly believe its the way to go so that I don’t hurt my back and I carry on writing. I miss all the writing so much but I don’t feel the old workaholic stressing out like usual. Continue reading
Everything has managed to stall this blog today. Firstly I was exhausted from my first night at Sexpo and then there has been internet trouble the whole day so let’s hope that this post happens at some point today.
I really have to rest as much as possible today because I can’t lie that my body was exhausted at the end of the day yesterday. So … I guess you wanna know about Sexpo? Continue reading
Hold onto your hats because this libran is swinging out of control on those scales that it’s causing ripples all around the world. This post is will be in true libra style … so much to say, not enough time to say it and half of it won’t make sense. That’s you just having to listen to me … can you imagine having to be me for a moment when the libran scales are a little more out of balance then usual … no comment from Robbie or Greggie or any other Yoda/God speaking people. Continue reading

Thanks to Hustler Girl who is the awesome owner of Hustler Extreme for the official sponsorship of Project Me
It is so awesome to officially announce that ‘project me’ has the first sponsorship from Hustler Extreme in Linden, Johanensburg. I couldn’t as for a better and more special person that Hustler Girl who will make sure that being single is always fun, spicy and super safe. Continue reading
There will be two blogs today considering I didn’t have time to do one yesterday and only just managed to remember to breathe. Don’t panic, I didn’t forget to eat though! Why wasn’t I born like the others who lose their appetite when things get scary, exciting and slightly emotional?
It’s officially exciting and overwhelming. I’m getting what I asked for and don’t know whether to giggle with additional excitement while I shout “woo hoo” or burst out crying after each “whoop whoop”. Continue reading





















